Ive been with this person for aprx 5 years. And i Still love him. But our relationship got unhealthy and toxic, and he started changing drastically being emotionally and verbally abusive. So i know its for the best that i broke up with him. But 5 years is a long time. And this is my first breakup. How Do i deal with it when i still do love him?

First, Im sorry to hear about your situation, but it is good that you recognized the pattern and ended it before the abuse progressed further. The hardest thing to do is say goodbye to someone you love so dearly, someone you’ve shared so many memories with, someone you’ve become accustomed to having around. It is also hard to admit you can love someone but not like who they have become. You will always love this individual in your own way and you will never love another the same way, every love is different. There is no doubt in my mind that you are mourning the loss of a lover and friend, however, you are also missing the comfortability of being with someone. Five years is a long time to be with someone and youve become used to sharing everyday life with another person and when it ends you feel that emptiness 1000 fold. It hurts and eats at you and Im sure there has been a lot of tears but every day that passes it will get easier and you will slowly remember how to function and fly solo again. What you have to remember and tell yourself everyday is that no matter how much you love/loved him, you have to love yourself and your health more and that if you didnt really love him you wouldnt have been able to let go. Sometimes the person who loves one the most is the person to let go first. There is no quick remedy for a situation like this. Time and moral support from your friends and family are the only way to pull through this while putting yourself together again. Some women run into the arms of other men which can temporarily fill the void but after it can feel awkward because it isnt THE set of arms youre used to. Everyone has a different way of coping with a loss and it is going to be a long uphill battle for you but remember you arent going to die, you are going to pull through, it will take time but time really does heal all. What can help the healing process, at least it helped me, was if you lived together splurge and get new sheets and comforter set, don’t destroy your memories like pictures and clothes, just pack them up and tuck them out of sight. I also would get a journal and write down what happened between you two and how you feel about it then and now. Write when you want about how youre coping and feeling because one day when you look back at this chapter in your life and you reread what you have written you will be astounded by your own healing process. Also get some of your friends together to go out and provide some healthy constructive distractions. In due time the pain will cease and clarity will replace it. Time really does heal all. I hope I have provided some incite into your situation and wish you nothing but the best.

I will see him again next month and I am really happy to see him but I am not happy with my relationship.. I want to break up with him in person but I kinda want to drop a few hints in our text message conversations so that when I do break up with him it won’t be a big surprise.. I really do like him but I can’t continue to do the long distance thing.. So what are some hints I can drop until he comes and I can talk to him face to face?

okay well,
first of all i would to drop hints like when he says i can’t wait to see you say like oh i guess or something like that . Or if he says i love you say like i lov u 2 like kinda use less words when talking to him,
then when you actually brake up just be like " I know that your a great guy & all but i hate having such a long distance kind of relationship , like i need time for my studies instead of worrying about when i can talk to you cause i can’t actually see you in person, i hope you really understand because i really hate doing this to you because your a great guy."
cut it lose and just say we can still be friend,

hope i helped .

I’m sure you get the idea……Is there any legal action that I can take so that I can get possesion of it and destroy it?? Please advise, thank you.

Nope. The other party has an equal right to it. The only way you can take any legal action is if the other party threatens to disclose it to others, or actually does so.

Can you please answer this question for me? Why did the colonies of America break up after the French and Indian War?

They didn’t.

I’m having trouble dealing with a break-up. Does anyone have any advice?

Rule is never be alone! If in these times you are alone, then you will be prone to depression and self-pity.

Call your friends, keep yourself busy, do something fun that will take your mind and heart away from your ex.

A break up is also one big motivation to lose weight, the "I will show you" attitude once you become sexier and happier without him/her.

And stay away from love songs, have pity on your heart!

Can a natal chart tell you how a relationship will break up or if it is doomed? Can it also tell you when it will happen? I so, what indicates that on the chart?

(NOTE: No anti-astrology remarks please! Your wasting your time and risking being reported.

Hi

Mars in the 7th house causes quarrels in marriage, which may lead to violence, separation and divorce.

Uranus in 7th if afflicted, causes incompatibility, leadig to separation and divorce. This depends on the blend of the two charts. Usually,this planet always lead to break-ups

Generally, we look at Moon, Venus and the 7th house for relationships and the 5th house, for love affairs in male charts.
In women, Sun, Mars and the 7th house andthe 5th.

If Moon and/or Venus are in 12th, 6th, and 8th, they hinder marriage. Then you look at aspects of Moon and Venus afflicted from Saturn and Uranus. These houses enforce isolation and marriage never happens,

An early marriage, aspects between Venu and Mars hasten marriage.
By the same token, Sun and Mars in no aspect to each other, often hinder or prevent marriage.

As for the time of marriage, the Moon’s position nearing the conjunction of Sun delays marriage in a male chart.
As for females, the position of Sun in the 4th, 5, 6, 10, 11 or 12th house will push for an early marriage.
Sun positioned in 1st,2,3,7,8,9th house , she will marrt late in life or marry a middle-aged or elderly man.

Finally, directions of MC, Asc, or Sun to the conjunction or favorable aspect of Venus or Moon, favors marriage in men’s chart.
For women, Asc or MC to the Sun or Mars and solar directions to mars and Jupiter favor marriage.

Any affliction between Moon and Mars in a man’s chart , or the Sun and Uranus in a woman’s chart, will still marry but will end in disaster.

This gives you a general idea how astrology can show the outcome or the forming of arelationship.

I always look at the 5th house for love affairs and sexual relations. Then, I examine the 7th house, ruler etc… to see if it will be legalized, or common law or other types of uion.

Kind of similar to my last question, but a little different… What break up stories do you have that can support the idea that a hard break up can actually be a very good opportunity for someone to find someone/something better? I know I will heal over time and I know that there has to be someone out there for me, but it would be really encouraging to hear some good stories about people finding love after being crushed! Thanks everyone!

Im sorry someone broke your heart The good news is it does get better. But it is also up to you to let yourself grieve for what you lost, but then get back into the swing of things and not let it break you!

My last break up was baaad. We were living together, very lovey dovey and literally out of the blue, one day he comes home and says he doesn’t think things are going to work out. Huge blow, didn’t see it coming at all. Just that afternoon he sent me a text telling me he loves me and cant wait to see me. Long story, so I wont get into the in depth details.

But we talked that night and we seemed to come the the conclusion that we would see how it goes. Then the next morning he doesn’t come to work (we worked for the same company) and when I got home, I find that he and his parents had put all of my stuff in boxes and were sitting around the table waiting for me to come home. Totally f*cked un in my opinion. so needless to say I took what stuff I could fit in my car and went to my friends house. Didn’t have anywhere else to go. I was so hurt that he would do something so callous to me.

Fast forward 1 year and some odd months later and I have a wonderful man in my life who treats me like I’m the best person in the world. I am very happy with him and my life. I moved back to my home state like I always wanted and I am closer to my family too. I am so glad it happened, where I am now is right, and my bf now is a better match for me.

So trust me, things will get better. Stay positive and concentrate on things and people who make you happy and feel loved You will get through this and will probably be better for it.