heather asked:


me and my bf just broke up. it would have been 11 months on friday. i love him so much. and we had plans to move out after he graduated this year, and like talked about the future, together. And he broke up with me yesterday before school started.
i love him so much, and i dont want to lose him
so any advice about how to deal with the break up?
or on how to win him back?
he told me that he still loves me. and that even though we are broken up he doesnt want anyone else.
but thats just making it harder for me to deal with it
thanks in advance!
the how to win him back would be great as well, thats what i want more than coping with it. i want him back!
he tol me he needed time to think, he just left but he said while hes gone he will consider going back out with me. what should i do about all this?
well, i live with him, long story about y that is. but so it just started out as a bad day, for both of us. and we were in a bad mood cuz we were late getting up, and so walking up the hill to school i was carying alot of stuff; my backpack, my gym bag and my purse. adn he was like y do u carry ur purse to school and i was like cuz if my makup smears i can fix it and he was like well thats just proof that ur to ugly for makup. whcih was what started the whole blow up thing. and i no he said it out of anger, but it stil hurt, he even told me that he didnt mean it and that i was the most beautiful thing in his world. but it started a fight about everything bad that has happened so while remembering all the bad he broke up with me, without even thinking about the good!
its not that hes scared of a commited relationship, i asked him about that, and he said hes sick of the fighting, which theres not much of, but there is fighting!, gut its fighting over stpid stuff that ends at the first chance we have to talk about it and to understand.

Carol

sobergirl26 asked:


Hey guys, I really need your advice on this. My boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday. I’m 25, he’s 27. We discussed things last week, and he said he doesn’t know if he loves me or not anymore. He said he already gets annoyed and he needs space and time. So it got me into thinking of finally breaking up with him since I think it’s unfair for me if we still have this relationship, and he’s unsure of his feelings. He said he needs time to figure it out if he still loves me. He has feelings for me, he said, but is just confused right now if wants to have the relationship. He wants to have space right now to think about it. He asked me if I can wait for his decision (it may be good or bad and he doesn’t know how long it’ll be) or just break up. At first he did not want to break up, but when I told him I’d rather break up rather than waiting and expecting for something uncertain, he agreed. He finally said he does not want me to be left expecting with nothing at all in the end.. I might just waste my time waiting for nothing. So there it was a mutual break-up. We ended it in good terms, he said we could be friends.

But I’m just so heartbroken right now. We’ve been together for 10 months. Part of me wants him back. He said he will still think if he will still love me while he has his space right now. Do you think he’ll do that? Will he still think about me? Or do I just need to move on and forget about him? Part of me is still expecting that while he’s having his space now, he’ll want me back. I don’t know. May be not. I’m just so depressed right now.

We have a long distance relationship. He’s in New Jersey, while I’m in Austin. We see each other once in 2 months. We’ve known each other’s family and friends. We were serious. But then, he said he got annoyed recently because I keep calling him and he needs his personal space. He just started work for about a month and may be it’s an added factor that he wants to have his time alone. Yeah he said he needs to be alone. Well, I admit that I was a clingy girlfriend, but I learned my lesson. And if he had told me, I could have changed. He just got tired of me. I love him so much and it just really hurts. Two weeks ago, we were together, so happy there in New Jersey. And then suddenly last week, he told me he grew tired of the relationship.
Should I just move on? or should I still wait? He told me that we should stop communicating for a while in order for me to move on. He said if he would realize he still loves me but then I already moved on, then it’s his loss because I was really a good girlfriend. It’s just that according to him, not all couples just get along well. He’s so honest and I appreciate that. It’s just I’m heartbroken right now and constantly thinking about him. And I’m sure there’s no 3rd party involved. It’s all about him having his personal space for now and the confusion if he still loves me or not.
Thanks for listening to me. I’d appreciate advice from you guys. I guess this communication here would somehow lift my spirit up. I just moved here in Austin and I don’t have friends yet. That’s why this is harder for me…

Judith

__A_YAHOO_USER__ asked:


we’ve been dating 5 months. she’s in love/attached to the point where i could cheat on her with her best friend and her mom and she would take me back. every time i ‘cold shoulder her’ she gets over dramatically sad and pleads me to be nice to her. she demands my attention all the time and when i ignore her she gets pissy. she’s pretty immature as well. plus her familys really nice so idk if i should say somthing to them before i disappear forever. we’re 16.
and, sad to say, i never do much because she basically demands that i spend ever minute with her, regardless if we even do anything. and if i dont hang out with her she gets all emo and pissy for the next day at least.
so, please give me some advice. my last posting of this question didnt provide enough info to get relevant answers

Beverly

summer! asked:


So this guy asked me out about 2 wks ago and it doesn’t seem very right… Everythings just so awkward and quiet cause hes really shy.. And i don’t really feel any atraction to him now. It’s only been 2 wks so should i wait? Cause things are just weird and awkward and im not happy being with him.

HElppppp

Lynn

Criss asked:


Here’s are the negatives:
He talks too much, and I can hardly get a solid word in.
He’s very young in his ways, not very mature, he doesn’t have any depth, grew up very sheltered, and is still very sheltered (we’re 17).
All he talks about are his friends.
He keep asking me to hang out with his friends and him and I really don’t want to.
His best friend is a girl and it makes me jelous.
He DOES NOT KNOW how to KISS! He sucks, and each time he commits chin rape, EVEN though I calmly try to teach him and guide him.
He’s really loud and embarrasses me in public because he talks so much and so loud.
He’s very attatched to me already and it’s only been 3 weeks.

Here are the pros (they’re a bit immature, but I know the girls out there understand me):
He’s tall.
He’s got a slim physique.
He’s plays guitar amazingly.
He’s really likes me a lot for the person I am, and is very kind and respectful to me, and tells everyone about how much he loves being with me and etc.
Help me weigh it out.

I really don’t want to be with him, but I’m afraid I’ll regret breaking his heart once I do, like I did with another previous relationship.

Reginald