I Need Break Up Advice?
mileyfan1carson asked:
i need advice on how to break up with a girl. i have almost been going out with her for a year. she’s really nice, but ive started to not like her anymore. what do i do?
i need advice on how to break up with a girl. i have almost been going out with her for a year. she’s really nice, but ive started to not like her anymore. what do i do?
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Bessie
I think telling her is a good idea.
Cody
First step into manhood: being honest.
Julie
Tell her the truth, but nicely
Jessie
don’t be harsh..just say i don’t think this is working out too well..say it kindly, suggest the idea that you can still b friends..let her down EASY! girls get hurt REALLY easily..trust me, i know.
Michael
Be honest but, also try to put in a way that isn’t so blatantly mean.
Cheryl
Oh my . . wel i would go and speak to her face to face and tell her that you are not happy, dont act like a **** until she dumps you and dont mess her around.
Good luck.. grow ya balls and be a man.
Shannon
1. First, make sure you’re certain. There’s nothing worse thanwishshy break up. You don’t want to give her false hope. That will only hurt more in the long run.
2.
Know your intent. Do you want to stay friends? Never see her again? Be free so you can start dating someone else? You don’t have to state your intent, but make sure you know what you want before you go into it. This will help especially if she gets emotional and tries to get you to change your mind.
3.
Be kind. Your goal in a break-up should be to keep your integrity and honor hers. Before you open your mouth, imagine how you want it to go. Picture the best case scenario and try to keep that in your mind when you approach her.
4.
Be clear. Have an idea of what you’re going to say before you say it. Write some things down. Try to avoid the cliches like “It’s not you, it’s me,” or tell her you just want to be free, if you intend on dating someone else right away.
5.
Practice. Call up your best friend and have a run through. When you feel confident you know what you’re going to say, set a time for the “talk.”
6.
Be direct. Start out by saying something like, “I want to talk to you about our relationship, because it’s not really working out for me.” Don’t beat around the bush. Let her know that what you’re doing is breaking up with her.
7.
Don’t blame. Try to talk in “I” statements. No matter how much she frustrates you or drives you crazy, keep the emphasis on yourself. Say, “I’m not happy,” or “I feel it’s time for me to move on from this relationship.”
8.
Be sincere. If you still love her, you can say that, but let her know that it’s just your dynamic is not working or has become unhealthy.
9.
Be clear. She should know when you leave that what has just happened is a break-up. You may have to spell it out for her. “I feel it’s best if we break-up now.”
10.
No guilt. It’s okay to be sad, upset, angry, relieved and uncomfortable, but please don’t feel guilty. You have a right to set your own path in life and it doesn’t have to include her.
Do not break up over the phone, instant message, text message, I.M. or voice mail. Unless your entire relationship has beon-lineine, do it in person.
Pick a private place to do it. Creating a scene in a restaurant or bar is just tacky.
Remember, no matter how nice you are, if she has strong feelings for you, it’s going to hurt. You can’t protect her from her feelings. Let her have them and don’t let them sway you back into something you don’t want.
Suzanne
Tell her that you feel the spark in your relationship has faded and that you don’t see a future with her romantically anymore. If you want to remain friends, let her know how much you value her friendship and that you want her to stay in your life but strictly on a platonic level. Of course, you need to respect her decision if she chooses not to have anything to do with you after the breakup. Be gentle and considerate. This si not an opportunity to namecall or list things you secretly didn’t like about her. Resepct her feelings and apprehend her reaction; tell her the way you would want to be told. Good luck!
Yolanda
Be honest with her and tell her you just don’t feel the same way about her. Or the cowards way, just fade away. Don’t call or answer the phone, always be busy, etc.
Kristin
Break ups are never easy. There’s no way around the heartbreak. It’s either the person get super pissed or really depressed. If they don’t then you shouldn’t have been in the relationship with the person in the first place.
Tell her straight up ”I know we’ve been dating for a year now, and I just don’t feel the same about you.” The truth hurts, but it’s better than lying or having her guess.
If you’re too scared, then I guess you could do the classical, ”send a song”. Find a song the expresses how you feel and tell her it’s how you feel. Give her time to understand what you’re really trying to say. If she has any questions, don’t hesitate to answer them. It’s the least you could do for not telling her straight up. Also, try avoiding the words ”I don’t know”
Good luck
Sharon
but frist before i give you advice why dont you like her any more like what is wrong with her and can it be fixed. some times people lose good people over stupid stuff that can be fixed and are you willing to save your relationship to be fixed of you answered yes to these questions than talk to her and work it out.
but if you are really done with her than tell her the truth and be sensitive and respectful treat her the way that you would wanted to be treated if she would be breaking up with you. and remember she is a human being.