Hey guys, I really need your advice on this. My boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday. I’m 25, he’s 27. We discussed things last week, and he said he doesn’t know if he loves me or not anymore. He said he already gets annoyed and he needs space and time. So it got me into thinking of finally breaking up with him since I think it’s unfair for me if we still have this relationship, and he’s unsure of his feelings. He said he needs time to figure it out if he still loves me. He has feelings for me, he said, but is just confused right now if wants to have the relationship. He wants to have space right now to think about it. He asked me if I can wait for his decision (it may be good or bad and he doesn’t know how long it’ll be) or just break up. At first he did not want to break up, but when I told him I’d rather break up rather than waiting and expecting for something uncertain, he agreed. He finally said he does not want me to be left expecting with nothing at all in the end.. I might just waste my time waiting for nothing. So there it was a mutual break-up. We ended it in good terms, he said we could be friends.
But I’m just so heartbroken right now. We’ve been together for 10 months. Part of me wants him back. He said he will still think if he will still love me while he has his space right now. Do you think he’ll do that? Will he still think about me? Or do I just need to move on and forget about him? Part of me is still expecting that while he’s having his space now, he’ll want me back. I don’t know. May be not. I’m just so depressed right now.
We have a long distance relationship. He’s in New Jersey, while I’m in Austin. We see each other once in 2 months. We’ve known each other’s family and friends. We were serious. But then, he said he got annoyed recently because I keep calling him and he needs his personal space. He just started work for about a month and may be it’s an added factor that he wants to have his time alone. Yeah he said he needs to be alone. Well, I admit that I was a clingy girlfriend, but I learned my lesson. And if he had told me, I could have changed. He just got tired of me. I love him so much and it just really hurts. Two weeks ago, we were together, so happy there in New Jersey. And then suddenly last week, he told me he grew tired of the relationship.
Should I just move on? or should I still wait? He told me that we should stop communicating for a while in order for me to move on. He said if he would realize he still loves me but then I already moved on, then it’s his loss because I was really a good girlfriend. It’s just that according to him, not all couples just get along well. He’s so honest and I appreciate that. It’s just I’m heartbroken right now and constantly thinking about him. And I’m sure there’s no 3rd party involved. It’s all about him having his personal space for now and the confusion if he still loves me or not.
Thanks for listening to me. I’d appreciate advice from you guys. I guess this communication here would somehow lift my spirit up. I just moved here in Austin and I don’t have friends yet. That’s why this is harder for me…
Judith
